My story could have been any of your stories..
“My story from toxic relationships to creating Considering Love was a long and painful one”
Inspired by my own journey
I never understood how I could be one of those people who lived through repeated toxic relationships. How could that be my story? I’d grown up in a loving and happy household, I’d been hugged and praised as a child, I’d gone through university and my parents had stayed together until my father died in his eighties. Yet there was no denying it, since my divorce 12 years earlier I had been in one relationship after another that had drained and diminished me, every time leaving me a little more ragged and wearier when I finally came out the other side.
Looking back over those previous 12 years I’m shocked it took me so long to work it all out. But it isn’t easy finding your self-worth when it’s buried under so many years of confusion and life experiences. Sometimes the truth is simply we’re not ready to see what’s right in front of us, and I’ve learnt over the past few years, to let go of the shame of not knowing better of not doing better.
When I was ready to move forward life offered me a path. I stumbled, I don’t remember now exactly how, upon a book by Ken Page. This book was going to be the catalyst that changed my life, but it wasn’t going to happen immediately and there were other factors that had to come into play before I was able to finally leave the last toxic relationship I was ever going to have to live through.
Moving Forward
The work I did on myself took years. As a therapist I was able to dig deep ‘when I knew where to put my spade’. I had colleagues I could call upon to help me unearth the parts of me that I was
reluctant to expose, and I read extensively, everything I could get my hands on that would shed some light on my situation. On love, on relationships and on regaining my feminine power – but that’s another story. Over those years I learned so much about how we relate to one another and to ourselves, and I’m delighted that none of that learning was wasted!
Even though it has been a long time in the making, my Recipe for Love Programme is the product of all those painful hours of revelations and reflections. Creating Considering Love was not a conscious decision but one that my life naturally lead me to. As a therapist I’ve always been excited by other people’s stories and experiences. I’m a dreadful nosy bones really. I love how we are all survivors of one thing or another and how resilient we are as a species. One particularly cruel partner commented “you fill your life with fucked up people. You surround yourself with fucked up people because it makes you feel less fucked up yourself – you therapists are all the same”! He enjoyed reminding me what a mess I was. I’m sorry he couldn’t see what I saw, the courage, the strength, the beauty of those survivors I filled my life with.
What now?
Considering Love has taken the most powerful and progressive lessons from my story and put them into a teachable programme that I can use to help other people navigate romantic love.
I’ve come to see that it is only when you understand your own patterns, your beliefs and behaviours around love that you can actually change your own love story. You can finally find your together forever happy-ever-after ending.
Divorced and single in my 40’s was a very daunting place to be!
“My journey into love seems to have spanned decades. It has taken me through many painful and oppressive relationships, which I’d like to spare others from experiencing if I can.”
MDK Clason Founder of Considering Love
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