Serial dating but still single? Ever wondered why you can’t seem to make a relationship stick? Finding yourself questioning “am I really unlovable”?
Life always seems full of questions, but for someone struggling to find a loving partner, the question of how loveable are you? often plays on an endless loop.
It seems strange, doesn’t it, that you can be an intelligent, caring individual, yet still struggle to maintain a healthy, and fulfilling relationship – why is that?
Does life leaves its mark on all of us?
Imagine for a moment that you are the sum total of all the experiences that life has ever given you. Dig deep and remember all those times you were in a relationship where you held part of yourself back, or where you didn’t feel safe to express yourself, or you were told repeatedly that you weren’t enough.
Removing the rose-tinted glasses now and being completely honest with yourself, some of those experiences were challenging and really stung you, right?
Some were even embarrassing or humiliating with the capacity to belittle or even devastate you.
All those moments educate you in some direction or other. They say something to you about who you are and how you are viewed by the world.
More accurately, they point to how acceptable, valued, and loveable you are.
These experiences get locked deep within your psyche (without you even realising it). Then they continue to play out throughout your life, particularly within your romantic or close intimate relationships.
No one’s life, no matter how blessed, has been an Enid Blyton’s picnic!
We all have little scars, ‘life-badges’ that stay with us and impact how we show up within an intimate relationship.
The information your psyche holds about you directly influences how you ‘act out’ in relationships. The truths you believe about yourself (on a deep and often subconscious level) affect your interactions with significant others, and can, without you realising it, actively act against you.
Am I really unloveable?
I could tell you right now, hand on heart, that you are NOT unlovable. .
But the issue is not really about whether you are or not; the issue is always about what you believe!
Some beliefs are so deep-rooted that their origins are not easy to spot or unearth without support.
The damage underlying negative self-beliefs have on your relationships, is likely to persist without in-depth exploration.
At ConsideringLove.com, they specialise in guiding you through these explorations, helping you navigate your way into loving, sustainable relationships.
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